Secondary Infertility – Why can’t I get pregnant again?


After having your first baby, many people think that having their next child will be easy, but sometimes life can throw a curved ball and for some couples this is not always the case.

For some couples struggling to conceive their next baby ‘secondary infertility’ or ‘secondary sub-fertility’ can often be neglected. People may naturally assume if you already have a child then you can conceive again. Couples experiencing secondary infertility can sometimes feel they may even be judged if they open up about their problems trying to conceive another child, because they already have one and perhaps even ‘should be grateful’ for having one already. This can lead to anxiety, stress and upset along with added upset perhaps of not providing a brother or sister for their existing child.


  • AgeA woman is born with all the eggs she will ever have, and this supply slowly decreases as she releases eggs every month. As a woman ages, she has fewer eggs but also fewer ‘good quality’ eggs.  Women are most fertile roughly in their mid- to late-20s, after which point fertility begins to decline slowly and by around the age of around 35 the decline accelerates. These days women are having babies later in life and this can play a part in struggling to conceive a second child.
  • Various medical conditionsPCOS, Endometriosis, PID, Fibroids, uterine scarring – are just some conditions that may all have an effect on secondary infertility.
  • Stress:  Never underestimate the effect stress can have and it can be a major impact on conception. Trying for a baby can in itself be a stressful experience and may be hindering conception.  Stress can also affect ovulation and contribute to hormonal imbalance so it is hugely important to try to make an effort to reduce stress levels.
  • Sperm quality:  As men get older, their sperm quality also declines from around age 35.  Semen quality may also be affected by stress, heat, tight clothing ie cycle shorts. Sperm production can be affected by alcohol and smoking.
  • Weight: Being overweight or obese (having a BMI of 30 or over) reduces fertility and in women being overweight or at the other end of the scale, severely underweight, can affect ovulation.


Reflexology is a wonderful tool for reducing stress levels and increasing wellbeing – it works by reducing feelings of mental and physical stress by calming the central nervous system, reducing cortisol levels caused by stress, improving and balancing the endocrine system.  Creating balance in emotional and physical wellbeing is extremely important in the attempt to conceive whether that be primary or indeed secondary infertility. Reproductive Reflexology uses specific techniques and protocols to assist all phases of your fertility journey.

As a full member of the Association of Reproductive Reflexologists, Chrissy has undertaken Advanced training in Fertility.  All appointments include a full consultation and a look at lifestyle, diet, stress levels and bespoke treatment plan.


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